Renju was brought to Asadeepam four years ago by Childline, an organisation that helps underprivileged children. Renju comes from a very poor family: his father is a labourer with alcoholism and his mother works in a fish-packing factory. They live at their workplace, and Renju's older brothers have been placed in orphanages because their parents are unable to provide for them. During the holidays, Renju either stays at the school or goes to his uncle's house. We have been taking meetings with the local supermarket chain to see if we can find a job for Renju's mother.
Renju is 12 years old with moderate mental retardation. He also has several behaviour problems such as lying, stealing from other students and staff, pica (eating inedible substances), and aggressiveness. I always know where to find Renju because he makes a loud, deep noise whenever he is focusing on a task. Some of these behaviours are most likely due to his poor home environment. Several of the behaviours that are considered problematic in the school setting may have been adaptive in his neighbourhood, such as aggressiveness and theft.
Mental retardation is much more prevalent among children of lower socioeconomic status (SES), especially for children with less severe mental retardation. The stress of poverty and an unstable home environment is suspected to play an indirect causal role for mental retardation.
In class, Renju is developing his Math skills, English and Malayalam. He is also learning important abilities like telling time and how to handle money. He enjoys math and is learning double-digit addition with carry-over. He has a good number sense and understands meaningful counting. When he makes a mathematical error, it is usually due to lack of concentration. He is not very interested in language, and when I have worked with him in class he has only been interested in learning how to spell my name. He writes it on paper and carries it with him in his pocket. Renju is very good spatial awareness, and can copy letters, numbers and shapes very well, even though he cannot identify the individual characters or what any of it means.
Renju has difficulty pronouncing the letter 'R' and like many other students at the school, he would benefit greatly from working with a speech therapist. He is often inattentive in class, and his teacher has difficulty getting him to concentrate on his work. Renju becomes very upset when he is disciplined and runs away, refuses meals, or locks himself in the bathroom. Renju enjoys being the leader or helper, so as a reward the teachers will allow him to lead the group during fitness class, set the table, or take care of the younger children.
Renju has become very attached to me since I arrived at Asadeepam. He follows me everywhere and takes care of me by bringing me to each activity, teaching me words in Malayalam, and filling my water bottle. He will always save me a seat right next to his own. Renju is very frustrated by the fact that I cannot speak Malayalam, since he always wants to speak with me. When he tries to speak to me in Malayalam and I can't interpret what he is trying to say, I ask him to speak in English. He replies by sighing loudly and saying "I AM GOING...", then repeating exactly what he had said in Malayalam...as if saying that small English phrase will magically translate the rest of what he's said into English. It's cute, but not very helpful for my understanding.
Renju is also very protective
of me, and gets jealous when I interact with other children. He says that he is the only student who is allowed to come back to Canada with me. He will travel by helicopter, live in my house and drive my boat. I have told him that he will have to keep studying English if he wants to come to Canada, and this helps to motivate him. In the mornings when I check my email, Re
nju sits with me and I show him pictures of friends, family and my home. He has learned how to use many functions on my computer and camera, so it can often be difficult to get work done when he is around. Renju loves to play, and some of his favourite activities are yoga, karate, pretending to be racecar drivers, badminton, and arm wrestling. Renju loves to garden, and he is very proud of his own patch of plants that are growing in the yard. He spends an hour each day clearing the ground, watering the plants, digging new holes for planting, and pulling out weeds.
Renju is very good at taking care of the younger children at the school. He helps them get to each activity and protects them when other children are teasing them. He treats me the same way as he treats the young children. I believe he sees the fact that I do not speak Malayalam and I am less familiar with cultural practices as my own disability, which is quite understandable.
Renju becomes very sensitive when he is punished, or when it seems as though others are angry with him. Renju has difficulty expressing how he feels, and he often interprets discipline as rejection from others. Renju is attached to me, and when he oversteps his boundaries and I must discipline him, he withdraws and will hide from me for the rest of the day. If I pull away from him when he wants to play, he gets upset and ignores me. Renju has problems becoming close to others, and has difficulty understanding my relationship as both a teacher and a friend. In the past, I have always considered myself to be very good at remaining friendly towards the children I work with, without becoming their friend. I was always able to maintain that necessary distance, but I find this much more difficult with the children here...especially Renju. It might be due to their special needs, however I have worked with this population before without any problems. I think it is the fact that I live with the children and interact with them much more than I would at a regular school or day camp. Also, the children come from such disadvantaged backgrounds that I can't help but want to give them as much love and encouragement as I can. The other teachers and staff have a different approach, and focus much more on punishing bad behaviour rather than rewarding good behaviour, so perhaps I am overcompensating for their methods. I am learning to keep my distance, but still remaining friendly with the children.